Do you know what's not sexy? 

Being dragged kicking and screaming into couples coaching/counselling/therapy by your partner because you're too stubborn to take responsibility for your actions.

Let's face it, guys - we're not always the easiest to deal with in relationships. We have our own set of emotional baggage, communication issues, and insecurities.

But instead of waiting for your wife or girlfriend to give you an ultimatum, why not step up and take control of your love life?

That's right, it's time to level up your love game.

It starts with taking responsibility for how you show up in your relationship. 

Are you being the best partner you can be? 

Are you meeting your partner's needs and expectations? 

And if you're not, that's okay. 

It's not about being perfect,
it's about being willing to learn and grow. 

So instead of waiting for your partner to force you into couples work, why not take the initiative and seek out resources to help you improve?

There are plenty of options out there - from relationship coaches (hi) to books to workshops - that can help you become a better partner.

None of us want to feel like we've done something wrong or we're not doing something good enough. 

The work of really hearing your partner - not just to the words but also what's happening beneath the words - can be uncomfortable. 

So why bother? 

Think of it not as being called out, 
but as being called forward.

What's more uncomfortable - working on your relationship and creating deeper connection and intimacy, or losing her? 

You can brood in our man-cave and criticize our partner, or you can get to work creating the life you want. 

And let's be real, taking the initiative to improve your relationship is pretty darn attractive. 

So not only will you be doing something good for your partner and your relationship, you'll also be boosting your own sex appeal.

When men contact me about coaching, it makes my heart sing. I know they're embarking on a journey that will change the course of their lives. 

Even if they're not aware of it at the time, this is warrior work and a hero's journey.

So what are you waiting for? It's time to step up and level up your love game. Trust us, your partner will thank you for it.

Don't know where to start? Check out my men's group AWAKE, and join an amazing group of men improving their lives and relationships.

Thanks for reading, and remember - men take responsibility for their actions.

Best,

Matt

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