Dads, this is what she wants from you.

There's something wired into us that we're somehow failing if we have to ask for help or support.

There's fear that it shows weakness. And that our need for support might get used against us. The fear runs really deep and it stops so many men from reaching out, or accepting support when it's offered. It keeps us isolated and struggling.

Where did this belief come from?

Because look a bit further and you'll see that through history men have had a network of support.

Kings and Prime Ministers and Presidents have advisors and councils. Army generals have their war room. CEOs have boards, peer networks, executive assistants, business mentors and coaches. Don Corleone had his consigliere.

Everywhere you look, men are getting support. Not because of weakness. but because being heard, being open to guidance and advice creates better outcomes.

The stress and challenges we sometimes face as dads are real. The responsibility is huge, and our spouses and co-parents might be great in so many ways, but there's something about honest talk, man-to-man, which is irreplaceable, and can be hard to find.

Recently, I was at a small neighbourhood gathering. I was chatting with two guys, young dads, who were friends with each other. 

One of them was curious about the men's group, AWAKE, I had mentioned.

'So what is that? What happens?"

I explained how it's often difficult for men to talk about important things in their lives, and how the men's group provides a space for authentic connection, for men to support each other.

He chuckled and nodded to his friend, and said, 'that's so true, all we talk about is sports'. His friend laughed in agreement, 'Yeah, what you're doing sounds great, I'd like to check that out'.

A lot of men, even good friends, just don't know how to have these conversations.

It's vulnerable at first, it can feel very awkward, but once you're tapped in...

It's a connection that runs its own deep channel. You've felt it before, maybe not for a long time, but you've felt it.

It's deep and it's rich.

It doesn't weaken you, it strengthens you.

Where there was confusion, a good connection with another man creates clarity.

And I'm going to let you in on a secret. 

Your wife wants this for you. 

And your kids want this for you. They want the version of you that shows up in their lives as strong, present, confident and in touch with your feelings.

I've worked with many men over almost two decades. And I've been supported by many men too. I know the value of what I'm offering and I want you to experience it.

My men’s group AWAKE isn’t exclusively for dads, but many of the men in the group are dads.

Joining AWAKE won't grant you superpowers like the ability to change diapers at lightning speed or cook a gourmet meal while simultaneously fixing a leaky faucet. 

But it will equip you with the tools and support to navigate fatherhood like a boss. Plus, the camaraderie and banter are worth their weight in dad jokes!

There’s deeply moving and powerful support happening in the group every week that is changing the lives of the men and their kids.

There’s also smiles and laughter and a deep sense of community.

At the beginning of every AWAKE call, often we check in feeling some of the burdens of our day - tired, anxious, nervous, tight or aching in our bodies.

But at the end of literally every call, we're often checking out feeling more grounded, supported, lighter. 

In AWAKE, you'll embark on an exhilarating journey through the depths of fatherhood, manhood, relationships, and personal development, surrounded by a tribe of like-minded men who've got your back.

Imagine that for yourself. This support in your life is transformative.

Redefine what it means to be an empowered father.

Talk to Matt about having few fights and more intimacy. Book your free discovery call here.

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